The first one is Jamie and Mom at the Kings County Fair back in the 70's. And the 2nd one was just taken by Jamie and those are her children.
Our family has been going through a paticularly sore trial of late, it has actually made us all feel inadequate. My mother has been ill lately and has been in and out of the hospital and the ER. They usually don't find anything wrong with her, but because she is old and has some dementia they don't take her serious either. Her doctor finally referred her to a neurologist and she believes mom may have Lupus. So now she may get some relief from the pain she suffers. It has been a rollercoaster ride of emotions. My daughter has been doing some research and found information about dementia, and we believe she has frontal lob dementia. It is the type where you lose your personality and become combative, which she has become combative to the point of frustration. I know the nurses at St. Agnes would be glad if she never came back, she yells at them and calls them all names, so unlike the mother of my youth. They have even had to have security come to her room. She has ailienated a lot of her family and she accuses my step-father of all sorts of crazy stuff... so every visit you never know what to expect. Yesterday she was crazier then ever when my sister-in-law, Sara, and I were there. Her subject yesterday was one I can't repeat. I am so shocked at who my sweet little mom has become. My younger sister, Jamie, works really long weird hours so she doesn't get to visit as often as the retired sisters do, and the thing is when Jamie calls her she seems to be in normal mode??? Sara and I get crazy and Jamie gets normal?? Is it because we are there more? or is it just us who bring out the worst in her??? I have no answers and I just wanted to post to remind myself of who my mother was, and not what the disease has done to her.
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It is so hard to see a parent turn into someone they are not. Just keep remembering who she really is in inside. We will continue to keep your famiy in our prayers. know that we love you and we have walked in your shoes...so if you ever need to talk, you know where to find me! :) Love ya!
Thanks Allyson, I do know where you live and need to come visit!! :)
My mother went through something very similar a few years back. It was horrible and scary. Finally the Dr put her on Zyprexa and she calmed right down...it was incredible. She still had her severe dementia but she quit having the hallucinations and very odd aggressive behavior. Your Mom may also be having hallucinations....which would explain why she is saying and doing crazy things. When the Dr first suggested the Zyprexa (sp?) I thought, yeah right like that's going to help. But it did! It's really hard watching your own mom disappear into someone else. I'm so sorry about what you are all going through.
Thank you Jill I am going to ask the doctor about this medicine!! She does have hallucinations especially while in the hospital.
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